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Who's on Your Team?

With football season in full swing and my fantasy team hurting, I'm constantly looking for the players that could make all the difference in my season. As I scrolled through the various options, carefully analyzing not only the individual player's stats but also his teammates stats, I began to realize how important the people in our lives are. Upon this realization I started thinking about the people on my "team." I started thinking about how important it is to have the right people in the right spots, some are started, others wait on the bench, and some just don't fit.

The Starters: The starters in our lives are the people who have a positive influence on us. These are the people who challenge us and force us to grow. They offer insight and wisdom about situations. I like to think of my starters as being able to fill certain positions in my life. I have a person who I go to when I need financial advice, there are people who I call or text to get a good dosage of motivation, and I have a person to talk to when I need to be given the "tough love." 

It's with your starters that you want to invest the most time and energy. Really, why wouldn't you want to spend time with people who care about you, motivate you, and make you feel great?

The Bench: The people on my bench have much to offer as well, just not at the present moment. Similar to the players on your bench who you might sub in, these are the people who you still want want around just not all the time. Perhaps these people are on my bench because of certain life circumstances where they need to focus all their energies on the current issue, or some of these people have great attitudes but their lifestyle doesn't quite mesh with our core purpose. Still there are moments when the relationship can benefit both. 

One last thought on your bench is to try and make it as awesome as you can. Unlike fantasy football, you don't have to settle and you can make your bench as deep as you want it. Just remember to fill it with the right people!

Not on the Roster: Then there are the people that just don't fit on the team. I know that it doesn't sound great saying that, but it is important to be conscious of who we surround ourselves with. These are the people who are chronically negative, instead of helping you become your best their focus is persuading you to settle.

Now I believe in showing love to everyone. I'm not advocating totally abandoning your friend who happens to complain a lot. I will however suggest managing your time in a way that the negative friend isn't allowed to sap your energy and your time.

Yourself: Now the big question is, which one of these are you? Are you someone's starter? Who's bench are sitting on and how can you move into a starting position? Is there someone's roster you're not on? Why?

It's always important for us to take a step back and evaluate who we are as we begin to evaluate who spend our time with. "You become who you surround yourself with. "Your friend are like elevators. They either pull you up or pull you down." -Marc Mero
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